Tips for a Stress-Free Vacation After Divorce

by Melissa Hensonn Lawyer

So, if you are contemplating a divorce in New York, it's important to ask yourself some questions about your family life that you can't answer for yourself

For example, is your family happy? Are there fights? Does everyone seem to know what's going on? If so, don't take vacations, since this probably means that something isn't right! Now that we've gone over each of these important issues, let's talk about a stress-free vacation plan...

Don't take vacations!

Don't take vacations while your marriage is in its worst shape, and most likely, still won't turn out any better. On top of that, take a break-even if you think the relationship will get worse, and make sure that you're away from the source of your problems that you can easily leave for your honeymoon trip. If you can't go with your spouse, this is a great opportunity for you to be far, far away from everything that is causing you to stress in your love life.

Why Take a Stress-Free Vacation From All of This? If you are trying to take a stress-free vacation and you're not sure why ask yourself one single question: Is this trip going to make things worse? If it is, take a holiday. Otherwise, if the answer to that question is no, get the hell out of dodge. If you go for that reason, you're probably going to end up in tears and wishing that you could escape. Don't try to escape, but instead, get your shit together and figure out an effective way to do things.

If you are already on a vacation, go right ahead

Just know that your time is valuable because you will never get that time back. Your marriage is not a game where you can make it through the entire vacation feeling like you were having it all day.
Taking Stress-Free Vacations Is A Bad Decision...

Stress is like gasoline: You can't simply fill up without making an effort...it's too expensive, so you put it in a bag and shove it in the trunk of your car. The same can be said for a couple. If you think you can just take a stress-free vacation, you're going to get sick of being in the same house, feeling the same pains, and having the same problems.

You have to do a lot of housework, get up in the middle of the night to fix stuff, wake up late to work, sleep in late, and you end up spending much more time on this than if you took an effort to figure out ways to get rid of all of the clutter, fight the fights, and keep your marriage stable or in working order.

So, how do you handle stress?

There are a number of effective tools you can use to cope with this kind of stress: 1-Do something you love. This might seem obvious, but people often don't enjoy their jobs, or they hate their families—or they have no desire to do these things, and they just want to get out of the house, feel happier, and have a more positive life. If you don't do something you love at work or in your kids' lives, you're never going to get the same satisfaction, and you're going to be sad.