The Betel Leaf and The Bengali wedding Plannerby Alexander A. Founder
Weddings are special and close to heart and India being a land of numerous culture and region, they just get better. Each religion has their own rites and rituals to be followed for marriages as well as for other occasions. This diversity is the essence of our country that gives it a beautiful blend of traditions and colors. Wedding of every community and region differ from each other, yet what remains universal is the approbation for traditions and the rich spiritual connotation. Bengali weddings too are a convoluted union of rituals which are a beautiful visual treat packed with colors and excitement when planned by the Bengali wedding planner like Holydelights. Below are discussed some basic rituals of Bengali wedding.
Pre- wedding rituals and traditions
In these rituals, the couple accepts each other as there would be life partner and then both the families sit with a priest to study the horoscope of the couples and finally exchanges gifts after the priest gives an approval.
This ritual signifies the acceptance of the bride and the groom by their respective in-laws. Both the parties visit the houses of the bride and the groom to shower their blessings on the couple and gift them gold ornaments.
This ritual is done to remember and take the blessing of the couple's ancestors.
Aai Budo Bhaat
It is simply the night when the bride has the last meal in their parent’s house before marriage. Here different delicacies are cooked as per the bride’s choice and served to her by her family members.
Gae Halud Tattva
In this ceremony the bride is sent some gifts from her in-law's end which includes sarees, make up products, curd, fish, husked rice, beetle leaf, sweets, haldi and many more things.
The ritual is performed on the dawn of the wedding day in both the parties’ house. In this ceremony, the couple is accompanied by few married women to the pond, where they take blessing from goddess Ganga and brings a pitcher of water from the pond. Once they come home they are given to have curd and Chira as they have to fast till the marriage is over.
Holud Kota and snan ritual
From here the occasion is arranged by the wedding planners as the marriage ceremony starts. It is similar to the haldi rasam of North India. In this five to seven married woman apply the turmeric paste and oil to the bride and the groom and then they take their bath and wear new clothes.
In this ritual the married women make the bride wear conch shell white bangles followed by red bangles and gets ready for the marriage ceremony.
Wedding rituals and ceremony
Here comes the role of the Bengali wedding planner like Holydelights who decorates the wedding place and arranges for the lighting, catering, flowers etc.
This is where actual rites and rituals start when the groom along with his family proceeds to the wedding venue.
Welcoming the groom
Here the bride’s mother welcomes the groom by performing aarti of the groom and brings him in, by holding his hands. The groom’s family members are also cordially welcomed and given special treatment by serving them sweets and snacks.
In this, the groom is offered new clothes by the bride’s family and then he sits at the wedding altar and then the bride enters the wedding altar.
This is the attraction of the Bengali wedding where the bride sits on stool covering her face with the sacred beetle leaves. She is then carried by her brothers and uncle to the Mandap where they take seven rounds around the groom.
Subho dristi and Mala Bodal
After taking the rounds the bride removes the beetle leaves and the couple exchanges their looks and the garlands three times.
The marriage is performed with full rite and rituals followed by sindoor dan and the marriage are over.
Post marriage rituals
After the marriage rituals are over the bride bids farewell to her family and leaves for her new house, where she is welcomed by her in- laws.
Here the groom’s family organizes a get together where the bride is introduced to the family members and the close friends and relatives. After this ritual, the room and the bed of the couple are decorated with flowers as it will be the first night together as husband and wife. Hence, with this, the ceremony comes to an end.
As Bengali weddings are colorful, bright and beautiful, it gives a visual treat to the eyes. Therefore, the preparation needs to be done perfectly which only the top wedding planner like Holydelights can organize in the way that you expect to be.
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