I watched an emotional column yesterday and was so angry that a girl was speechless.
The girl met the boy from the same school at the party, and the two have been together for a year and have a good relationship.
Later, the boyfriend first graduated and entered the society, and the girl needed to go to school, and the sweet love became stumbling.
Her boyfriend enters the society and refuses to find a job. His daily life pattern is Ge Youlai, playing games. In addition to the living expenses provided by his parents, the girl is responsible for the extra expenses.
The girl works part-time while studying, and her life is very hard. The two quarreled constantly. In order to have a good life in the future, the girl began a series of disciplines with her boyfriend.
The girl first took all the boy's living expenses and prevented him from playing games online.
However, the boy can always borrow money to go out to play games. The girl confiscated his mobile phone and wallet, and locked the boy in the rental house so that he was not allowed to go out. She studied at home so that she could get a certificate and find a good job.
A big man, locked in a house, has a way to escape. What to do, the girl really has no choice but to lock the boy's pants into the closet.
Haha, I believe that at that moment, there was laughter inside and outside the screen.
The girl said aggrieved, I just wanted to take care of him, but not only did he not get better, but also because I took care of him and clamored to break up with me, I was not for his good.
Emotion expert Tu Lei said that good men are not managed. Smart women never care about men, but inspire their conscience to guide them. This is the right way to change a man.
02
My friend Xiaoxin is a smart woman.
I met my boyfriend on a blind date. He was tall and handsome, and he was from a good family. He got married after half a year.
It was only after marriage that her boyfriend was addicted to alcohol. He would be drunk every time he drank, and where he would sleep when he was drunk. After waking up, his attitude was extremely good.
Because of drinking and mishaps, business can no longer go on, Xiaoxin is angry, noisy, troubled, divorced, etc., all kinds of methods take turns to battle, all of which are ineffective.
Once, her husband was drunk again and fell to the ground as soon as he went home. Xiaoxin was so small and thin that he couldn't help him. What should I do? Xiaoxin, who wanted to cry without tears, simply lay directly on the ground.
At that time, in the early spring, the building was relatively cold, and the two of them were shivering under the thick quilt.
At dawn, her husband found that Xiaoxin actually slept with him on the ground. She was very embarrassed. Xiaoxin did not accuse him, but thoughtfully asked him if he was cold?
Her husband's conscience discovered that she gradually reduced the frequency of drinking and worked hard to take care of the business. After that, the phenomenon of drunk and lying on the ground lessened. When Xiaoxin became pregnant, her husband basically stopped drinking.
The problems that could not be solved by noisy fights were solved in this way.
Xiaoxin was very moved. The preaching discipline didn't work at all. It stimulated his conscience and made him realize his mistakes and correct them. Only then will he really change.
A man’s nature is to be ready to protect the weak at any time, and showing weakness at the right time will inspire a man’s conscience and be willing to change and improve.
03
One of my classmates had a family business in his early years by doing business, driving a car and living in a villa.
Later, he became involved in gambling and was out of control. His wife refused to let him gamble. He chased him every day. He couldn't control it at all. The bets of his classmates got bigger and bigger.
The wife is a very wise woman, knowing that quarreling does not solve the problem, but to take action.
She sold all the villas and cars without paying a penny to her husband, and then the whole family rented a house. The elderly in-laws and sons crowded into the rented house every day and turned around hard.
The classmates are very upset. They come back from gambling every day. They don’t even have a place to sleep peacefully. The family is not without money. Why rent a house, eat well and dress well?
The wife said calmly, isn't you a good gamble? This is the ending of the bet. Instead of appearing later, it is better to practice internship now. Your parents' misery is the future of both of us.
The classmates were completely blindfolded, looking at the helpless eyes of their parents, looking at the crying face of the child, and vowed never to gamble again. After living in the rental house for half a year, the whole family returned to normal life.
We joked about the classmate when we got together. The prodigal son would not change his money. The classmate said with embarrassment that seeing his parents and children will suffer crimes with him in the future.
Some people say that a man is like a rope, which will always break when pulled to a certain limit. Therefore, a smart woman never pulls a rope hard, but knows how to stretch freely.
04
Don't worry about men, but inspire the conscience of men, but the one who used this method very well was an ancient woman.
In the late Tang Dynasty, there was a poetess named Xue Yuan who married a husband named Nan Chucai.
Nan Chucai is not only a standard handsome guy, but also brilliant, such a man is a walking hormone, and fans are sought after everywhere he goes.
That year, Nan Chucai left home to study and came to Xuchang, Henan Province, where he chanted poems and odes.
As a result, it attracted the favor of a beautiful woman. The beautiful woman was the daughter of the prefect at the time. She fell in love with Nan Chucai at first sight and asked to be married.
Nan Chucai also moved his mind, so he planned to divorce his wife and marry again, but he was ashamed to tell his wife that I have a fan outside and want to divorce you.
He sent the little attendants home to pick up the guqin and books, saying that he was going to learn and enlighten on the mountain, and he would not come back.
Xue Yuan is a smart woman, and the book is not for nothing. It will be obvious what her husband means in minutes.
Ms. Xue didn't cry or make trouble, and didn't go around publicizing her husband's scandal. She just picked up a pen, wrote a poem, and sent her little attendant to take it home.
Nanchucai’s reception and exhibition, the translation of poems into modern text means:
Away from home, I miss you very much. I am old because I miss you. I look at myself in the mirror every day. The mirror also cherishes my beautiful lady. You must cherish me more.
You can draw a picture by yourself and bring it by your side. Take it out when you think about me. Otherwise, after a long time, you will forget what your wife looks like.
Nan Chucai was ashamed, and immediately bid farewell to the little beauty, and went home in a chore.
Ms. Xue didn't mention anything about romance, she just told her misses, and at the same time reminded her husband not to forget his wife, because although his wife is old, it is because of misses.
In ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad, the love affairs of celebrities have been rioted, and they have been passed down because of the disturbance.
The story of Xue Yuan and Nan Chucai was known to the world because of this poem. The world praised Xue Yuan as the most intelligent woman in the late Tang Dynasty.
Once a man’s conscience is touched, it will go deep into his bones, without any harshness, and he will be able to know what he has lost.
05
Women's nature is to carry the maternal light, while men show maturity in other ways.
But in terms of love between men and women, they seem to be clumsy. They are like children who are not growing up, and this also inspires the motherhood in the bones of women.
Therefore, women put the cart before the horse, but ignore that the will of men is controlled by reason. Once they find that they have lost their happiness and freedom, they will naturally resist desperately, even at all costs.
Women's management becomes futile and even hurts themselves.
Don't worry about men, but inspire men's conscience, and then give the correct guidance, this is the smartest move.
In marriage relationships, women must clearly realize this, no man can change, unless the man wants to change.
Therefore, no matter how much you love, you must treat it rationally, don't blindly implement discipline, find breakthroughs from different angles, inspire a man's deep conscience, and let him change consciously.
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