How to Deal with Infidelity?

by BetterLYF Wellness Online Counselling Psychologist

Infidelity, What comes in your mind when you heard about this word? Celebrity romance, having a private affair and involvement in multiple relations with having a wife or husband. In general, many couples think about this that it will never affect them and this only for celebrities and public figures and this is not completely true.

As per the data, 40 % unmarried and 22 % marriage face problems with infidelity.

So come to the question of how to deal with infidelity? How to move along after the life hit with this unfortunate event? Here are some top ways that can help you deal with the Infidelity and also help you look forward with the new life. Scroll down to explorer.

Accept Your Feelings
Drop the Idea of Revenge
Try to Take Care of Yourself
Avoid the Blame Game
Keep Your Kids out of It
Seek Support

Let's explore one by one

1. Accept Your Feelings

Infidelity is worst than a breakup, Its a wave of shock, anger and grief when a person comes in to learn about this thing. To process, all these emotions, feeling, personal space and time is required. Accept these emotions and practice to be mindfulness, self-regulation and breathing exercise.

2. Drop the Idea of Revenge

Being misguided by your spouse can provoke rage. In your angry express, your first sense might be to rebuff your mate by rubbish talking him to associates or consider engaging in extramarital relations yourself to settle the record. You may get an impermanent feeling of fulfilment from such activities, in any case, they can neutralize you, keeping you in a condition of outrage as opposed to zeroing in on improving and progressing onward, alone or together. So dropping the idea of taking revenge is the best thing you can do.

3. Try to Take Care of Yourself

With such bad news, it is possible that stress, sleep disorder, difficulty concentrating, eating problems etc. happen. So after the passing of initial shock try to stay focus on the things that help you to move one by keeping your daily life routine unchanged.

4. Avoid the Blame Game

The cheating wife/husband must admit what occurred and accept full accountability. They must be totally honest, giving answers to any of the other’s inquiries. This will lead to discussions about what went improper and what requires to alter. But this happens if and only if that both agree to do the same if they start playing the blame game then things could be worse then this. Trust will not recover overnight, but admitting guilt is a good opening point.

5. Keep Your Kids out of It

The infidelity can cause serious problem for your children, try to not involve them. If you both mutually decided to end marriage then sharing the information about this will put your kids in an untenable position and forced to take the side.

6. Seek Counseling

There is no need to deal with the unfaithfulness alone, you can seek help from your near and dear ones. The best thing you can do take professional help like marriage counseling or break up counselling.

Hope all these ways help you deal with the Infidelity in the long run.