Behind the scenesby Paula van Dun Retired
Talking with people in private or
in private chat rooms can be very enlightening. I have spent a lot of
time in chat rooms lately and learned a lot from what is written there.
From direct statements but also from reading between the lines.
The content of those is very
different from profiles on networks. Sometimes completely opposite.
There are those with huge inflated egos that have in reality not have
big achievements and vice versa.
A lot of politics going on too and
gossip. Often based on emotions and jumping conclusions. People feel
mistreated and vent in private chats. Friends knowing the person that
vents take action to ban, ignore, un-join or whatever. To support their
friend. Emotions and business do not always mix well. Sometimes
statements are rectified back later.
People in private chats vent their
opinions and emotions more openly in private chats than they do, in
general, in public posts. Sometimes that is good because you really get
to know a person, a persons circumstances and back ground. This has
triggered for me to participate/promote some initiatives to help another
However when negative emotions are involved..... In private groups or chats you often hear just one side of the story in case of a conflict. At a time that the person is in a exaggerated state of mind. I usually sit back and watch how things develop. In some cases I will make an effort to do inquiries myself without mentioning names, to hear the other side of the story.
In general I maintain a low profile and I don't take sides. In chats you never know who is lurking so I think it is best to be cautious.Looking behind the scenes and participating in chat rooms has helped me to gain valuable insights. I also made valuable connections. It also taught me to walk on egg shells.
Created on May 22nd 2012 18:28. Viewed 994 times.