5 Relationship Red Flags for Men to Avoid

5 Relationship Red Flags for Men to Avoid
So, you may be thinking that you finally found the woman of
your dreams because everything they say and do is simply perfect. This, of
course, is known throughout the country as the "honeymoon phase." The
time (usually at the beginning) of a relationship where your partner can do no
wrong. This can be a wonderful time for many, as they are finally in a happy
relationship and discovering the world with someone new. This, however, can
also be one of the most dangerous. During the beginning of a relationship, you
may also be prone to ignoring certain red flags in a woman. Either because you
don't want to believe it or simply because you just don't see it. Thus the
following includes five of the most common relationship red flags men should
avoid when dating someone new.
Controlling
A woman being overly controlling is at the top of the list
because it is so easy to overlook early on in the relationship. This is because
when you are dating someone new, they seem to be the center of the universe.
They want you to use your weekend to help them move; you're right on it. Need
to run some errands? No problem, you're there to provide the transportation. In
most cases, this isn't going to be a big deal; after all, you want to make that
person happy. However, when the demands are often, and the consequences of
saying no are severe, that's when it should be seen as a red flag. For example,
she wants you to help her move, and you say that you can only help her for a
certain amount of house because you have another obligation. A controlling
woman will make you "pay" for not helping her. This can come in the
form of ignoring you or belittling you in front of friends or family.
Self-Esteem Issues
This sign might seem cruel-hearted, but if a person has
constant self-esteem issues, it is only a matter of time until that begins to
rub off on you. This is because most people have a hard enough time taking care
of their own mental health. By adding another person's health onto their long
list of responsibilities, it will often lead to disaster for everyone involved.
This does not mean you should quit on them easily, but if they are not
attempting to fix the issue whatsoever, it might be time to move on before
things become that much worse.
Close Friends with Ex-Boyfriends
To be clear, there is nothing wrong with a woman having male
friends. Oftentimes, these are people they have been friends with for many
years. As her new boyfriend, you should never force her to choose between you
and her long-time friends. However, problems may arise when she is continually
speaking with her ex-boyfriend. No matter their history or how long they've
known each other, this is a person that should not be on her phone or social
media pages. The best way to handle the issue is to ask her to remove him from
her contacts. If she refuses, this should be seen as the official red flag.
This is because if they refuse to remove an ex, it may be an indication that
you're simply the rebound. That means the second something goes wrong within
your relationship, that ex of hers is going to receive a call. Be especially
wary of this if she says that she’s pregnant. If she is pregnant and isn’t just
testing the relationship (see below), then do a paternity
test. There are few things more crippling to a man’s future than a relationship
with a false partner and then paying child support for a kid who isn’t his own.
Too Much Testing
Remember those fake scenarios that your high school
girlfriend used to put you through to test your love? Yea, let's leave those in
high school where they belong. Unfortunately, there are many women out there
who have yet to outgrow this type of behavior. You may be thinking that it's
harmless fun on their end, but the fact of the matter is that type of mentality
can quickly get out of control. If she does not tell you straight up what she
is thinking, take it as a red flag of a deeper issue and move on.
Does Not Take You Seriously
This red flag can be difficult to spot as they may take you
seriously in other areas. For example, they may take you seriously as the
breadwinner in the relationship, but the minute you want to voice your opinion,
it's like you don't even matter. This is usually accompanied by things such as
sarcasm and mockery. However, someone who truly loves you will listen to your
opinion. Although they don't have to agree with everything you have to say,
taking the time to listen to you is something everyone needs to do in a
relationship.
As you can see from the list above, there are many red flags
to look out for as a man. Although not everything is going to require drastic
moves, such as breaking up with them, it is still important to know where to
draw a line and remove yourself from the situation.
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