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LOVE and HATE.....Can we really have them both? Is this what our life is really meant to be about? Hmmmmmmm...........??????!!!!!????
As I was commenting on another great article, a great buddy of mine brought up some points that really made me think. (thanks G...I really should be doing house work right now...lol) But believe it or not...I have gotten TONS done in these few hours. Amazing what you can do when you put your mind to it! Back to the discussion: Our debate was about LOVE and HATE. The point that was made to me was that you have to Hate in order to Love. My point to him was that my past with hate is something that I am so freely getting rid of...and don't want any part of it anymore. Would I be where I am at right now, if I hadn't experienced that hate? I haven't a clue, and I am not going to stress about wondering. What I am experiencing is the Present. And I am looking at my life, and even this whole world differently! In doing so; it has brought me to a place that I don't ever want to leave! I only will expand it to new horizons! But this conversation made me look even further in the words HATE and LOVE: HATE~ abhor, abominate, loathe, scorn, despise, have an aversion toward, look at with loathing, spit upon, curse, dislike intensely, shudder at, not care for, have enough of, be repelled by, feel repulsion for, have no use for, object to, bear a grudge against, shun, denounce, resent, curse, be sick of, be tired of, reject, revolt against, deride, have no stomach for, disfavor, look down upon, hold in contempt, be disgusted with, view with horror, be down on, have it in for, object to , shudder at, not like. LOVE~ To be passionately devoted, adore, be in love with, care for, hold dear, choose, fancy, be enchanted by, be passionately attached to, have affection for, dote on, glorify, idolize, prize, be fascinated by, hold high, think the world of, treasure, prefer, yearn for, be fond of, admire, long for, fall for, be nuts about, be crazy about, go for, cherish, kiss, embrace, cling to, clasp, hug, take into one's arms, hold, pet, stroke, draw close, bring to one's side, to possess a deep and abiding interest, enjoy, delight in, relish. There are many other words that express these two words. But looking at it this way, I see the point that my friend was saying. How I can justify his point and then my point is seeing it this way: When you love in duality you will one day hate too. The world of duality has both sides to it. When you love in totality, there is only love. What this means is that you take the middle ground, nothing is good and nothing is bad, it just is. No one is lovable while another is full of hate, all beings just are and they are one with you and all is love. (thank you Micheal) Seeing it from this prospective, you cannot have both when you are surrounded with only love. Trust me, getting to this point in my life has been a long journey. Another great friend of mine here at Apsense said it is like 'Slapping your forehead..and saying...should have had your V8 today!' What the heck have I been thinking? See, in the past, I focused all of my energy on things that I couldn't control in the first place. Or things that I could control....instead of taking action, all I wanted to do was complain about it. Take for instance. I have 5 kids. I would rant and rave about the house, and nothing...absolutely nothing would get done about it! So now, instead of complaining and ready to pull my hair out...I just get it done! With the kids, they are assigned their chores and then I have my own chores that I do. My house is clean (and growing up with both parents Air Force...some of you can understand my meaning of clean). Bills...instead of complaining about the bills, and getting MAD at the people collecting what is owed to them. I just get the bills paid. And don't think about....oh they are ripping me off crap. Yeah, they are.....so what? I committed to the bill, so who made the choice to have to pay that bill? ME!!!! Gas....getting mad about how high the gas is, and complaining about (something I can't control in the first place).....I just let it go! I mean, why focus on being mad about it...I can't control it ?!? But I can control how I feel about it, because I have to get gas anyways! So I just don't worry about it, and I don't let it control my life! What I do think about is what I can control. And that is me! My feelings, and leading my children to a better way of thinking as well. Sure, I have a lot of work...because of all the COMPLAINING...they heard me doing for so long! And myself has adapted to all of my past complaints! I can't control my parents, my friends, my fiance, I can't even control my kids! But what I can control is ME! When you have complete control of yourself, the power of what happens in your life is AMAZING!!! Trust me, I am experiencing it..and giving a testimony to it! Free will is our gift, but we are taught to be fearful of it. Free will is awesome! Nothing to be scared of. I am reading articles complaining about the President, complaining about this. Heck, look at my articles from months ago....COMPLAIN COMPLAIN....from yours truly. I am not criticizing those that are complaining...but really what can you do about it? Sure, maybe it FEELS good to get it off your chest...but guess what? It is stuck further inside of you because that is all you can think about! Living in fear, hate, all of that was tearing me up. That is all that I could focus on!! I couldn't focus on all of the love surrounding me, the gifts that have been given to me, the peace that I could have within myself. Now that I have it, I am free of the burden of OTHERS making choices for me. I have taken full responsibility for my self. Months ago if I read this, I would of had a lot of negative to say about it. Because I was still the puppet on the strings of FEAR. I am not asking anyone to agree with me, because I am living this life with MY CHOICES. But if I can help...just one person understand that we have been lied to all of our lives, and can control our own lives. Then my job is DONE. Each and everyone of us have the ability to respond to our own individual thoughts! I am no Guru...I am no professional. I am new to this life of freedom, and have a lot that I have to work on. I will have that until the day that I leave this Earth! That is what is awesome with life. We can not replace what has happened in our past, but we expand (good or bad). I choose to expand in the good. I am so finished with the bad! Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.~Martin Luther King, Jr. Love, Jennifer Sasser Simplifying Lives and Securing Futures Simplifying Lives and Securing Lifestyles HERE |
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| Awww...Garnets writing poetry....must mean he wuvs me. LOL! That was very well put, and see you made me think..and I made you think. HAHA!
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| Jennifer, I can't quite place what it is and regardless of what people may think or say or even if it really is ego or selfishness or a true desire for higher enlightenment, I could care less and really just can't help myself!
I think after all this discussion(and the Old Coots Remarks), hate really wasn't even what I was talking about. Arthur, your right there really isn't much sense in all of this, how can there be when looking at 42 different perspectives on 42 different subjects or opinions. Such is LIFE, and only a mad lunatic could understand or keep up with it all. Myself, I am a naturalist in the sense that I deal with things as they come to me, as I find them or how they strike me. It is not always peaches and cream but I do my best to deal with and ACCEPT what comes my way as NATURAL and perfect sense in a world so full of imperfection it just might really be perfect after all.... As for hate and the question that sparked all of this, how can there be anything wrong with something that isn't even real? LOVE always opposed but never in reality any opposition that is TRUE. The lies of men that hide our true greatness...the truth so hard to swallow, the words I cannot find to describe this feeling(hell, I ain't perfecto!), ACCEPT your ugly TRUTHS my friends and love will surely follow! Oh crap, getting poetic...bushman out! LMAO!! Enjoy Life cREATive MarKEters WorkSHop |
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| Bravo Jennifer What you can control is you. You are 100% correct. Complaining all the time doesn't really change things. It is good to get it off your chest but then you have to decide to take action and do something about it. Complaining all day won't help. I am glad to see you come full circle and you are evolving girl. Nice going. Control yourself, change your perceptions on life and you will see answers and you will see clearly. Take it from me your friendly neighborhood optician. Lmao Jeunelle's World |
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| Hi Jenn Well I have always believed that the opposite of love is not hate but indifference! Jenny For Angel Lovers Earn $$s |
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| You all can continue with the bickering. But what my article was about in the first place.....has been lost in space. I have said all I will say. Until my next article. There will be plenty of people that read this and appreciate what I have said, take it, and use it. Peace and Much Love!
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| Hate is a label? What word is not?
And my only real argument all along has been that hate(or something that they, we or whoever would prefer not to acknowledge rather than something that they are truly cogniscent of) EXISTS therefore must have a reason, or do you all beleive life and all it entails is meaningless? Enjoy Life cREATive MarKEters WorkSHop |
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| oh my. Thank you for your feedback Coot. It has been clearly pointed out that Love and Hate are what WE make out of it. They are our own perceptions of how we live our lives. Love and Hate are the ways that we communicate, because that is how we have been taught. If we stopped focusing on those two words and focused on what truly makes us at peace within ourselves. Hate would not exist. At least in your own world, because you will just accept things as they are. Other peoples choices would not matter, because the focus will be on you and what you can change. Your own perception! Changing your RED thoughts to GREEN thoughts. Simplifying Lives and Securing Lifestyles HERE |
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| What a strange conversation this is.
I've tried to make sense of what you are all trying to say but not a single one of you has identified the stupidity behind accepting love and hate as the opposite sides of the same coin. Love is a subjective emotion that is created and driven by knowledge. To truly love something, you need to know it very well. You need to be exposed to it on a regular basis and you need a heart sensitive enough to feel the emotion, a brain sensitive enough to be affected by the emotion and a conscience wise enough to share the emotion. Hate is a mindless and unfeeling sense of injustice that does not know its own name. Very few people suffer enough to really understand the true nature of hate. To most people, hate is simply a label to be stuck on something that they would prefer not to acknowledge rather than something that they are truly cogniscent of. Love and hate do not co-exist as separate entities might co-exist. They co-exist as possible emotional states to be embraced in circumstances that would otherwise be over-whelming. Humanity is created so that love can be a sustained and an enjoyable state of being. Love can, in turn, sustain a state of being that both creates a self perpetuating emotional cycle and can immunise the spirit against many destructive perceptions. Hate can not be sustained as an emotion. To attempt to live in a state of hatred is to deny the very fabric of the human personna. People who claim to hate do not actually hate. They adopt a style of life and relationships toward their fellow men that have the appearance of hate but are really only a cowardly failure to accept the truth of their own inner inability to cope with difference. In a way, love and hate are religions. The religion of love requires only acceptance of what is. The religion of hate requires the denial of what is. Only in that way are they opposites. The Old Coot www-5bucksaday.com |
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| Look at who says that God hates in the Bible? Not God. God clearly states himself that we are not to hate. Hate will always been in this world because people hold on to hate. And bringing God up was not bringing the Bible up. Not everyone reads the same Bible, and I am not judging anyone's religions or beliefs! I am telling you what I am experiencing, and a WHOLE better life....freedom, and peace. Just as I was promised to have. God gave us free will. That is what he gave us! So yes, we can either LOVE or HATE. And if you live in your own world that living with the two are ok...then that is your choice. I am spinning my wheels, and nothing you say or I say is going to matter. Because they are are own personal feelings. And living a life of love is what I choose to do, and suggesting all my brothers and sisters to do. If you want to hold on to hate, then so be it. I love life and life loves me back! Simplifying Lives and Securing Lifestyles HERE |
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