7 Effective Ways to deal with criticism in life and business.

by James Williams Jr

7 Effective Ways
to deal with criticism.

to deal with criticism.


Nobody likes being criticised but, unfortunately it is a fact of life. To be able to respond to criticism with nobility and detachment is an important life skill, which few people have. If we respond to criticism without careful consideration, it can easily lead to unnecessary suffering.



1. What Can I Learn from Criticism?



Most criticism is probably based, at least in part, on some truths. Criticism may appear negative. But, through criticism we have the opportunity to learn and improve from their suggestions.



2. Respond to the suggestions not the tone of the criticism.



The problem is that people may make valuable critical suggestions. However, there tone and style of criticism means that we respond not to the suggestions but remember there confrontational manner. In this respect we need to separate the criticism from the style of criticism. Even if people speak in a tone of anger, we should try to detach their emotion from the useful suggestions which lie underneath.



3. Value criticism.



The problems is that quite often, we only value praise. When people speak kind words we feel happy. When people criticise we feel miserable. However, if we only received insincere praise and false flattery, how would we ever make progress? If we wish to improve and develop we should invite constructive criticism and appreciate their suggestions.



4. Don’t take it personally.



This is often the biggest problem which occurs with regard to criticism. If I criticise my Mother’s cooking, she feels personally offended. But, it is a mistake to identify ourselves with an apple pie. Somebody may find good reasons why our cooking is bad; but, this does not mean they are criticising ourselves. When people criticise us directly, we should feel they are not criticising our real self; but, just an unillumined aspect of ourselves. When we criticise others, we are perhaps criticising their pride or jealousy; but, the jealousy is a mere passing emotion, it is not the real person.



5. Ignore False Criticism.



Sometimes we are criticised with no justification. This is a painful experience. But, potentially we can deal with it more easily than criticism which is justified. One option is to remain aloof and ignore it completely. We should feel that false criticism is as insignificant as an ant trying to harm an elephant. If we remain silent and detached the criticism is given no energy. If we feel the necessity of fighting it - in a way, we give it more importance than it deserves. By remaining silent we maintain a dignity that others will come to respect.



6. Don’t Respond Immediately



It is best to wait a little before responding. If we respond with feelings of anger or injured pride we will soon regret it. If we wait patiently it can enable us to reflect in a calmer way.



7. Smile



Smiling, even a false smile, can helps us to relax more. It creates a more positive vibration and smoothes the situation. It will definitely help psychologically. Smiling will motivate the other person to moderate their approach.



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Cheryl Baumgartner Professional   Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
Good advice.
Oct 4th 2007 15:25   
Mona Alexia Senior   Sales Manager/Oursource Consultant
You are so right about criticism if you let it the best of you it can eat you alive. Just like you are depress or pitiful of yourself it only prevents from growth. Thanks for considering me as your friend. I am glad you are Christian and loving father!! What more can you ask for!!!
Nov 11th 2007 09:43   
David & Katsue Lukasiak Junior   
My wife and i have learned over the years, it is very easy to criticize anyone at anytime.Many people that we have met are very negative about life.
It takes practice to speak good about people, love is always ready to believe the best of anyone. Think about this;"When God made you He made no junk!
Feb 19th 2008 05:16   
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